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Login/Password Problems

1. How do I set up a username/password?

Registering a username/password
When joining Happy Ever After Dating we will ask you to set up a personal account with us.   You will be asked to choose a username, this username is the way other members will identify you.   If the username is unavailable, because another member is using it, a message will come up asking you to choose another username.  Hint – try to think of a name that is easy for you to remember and represents your personality.

Your personal contact information such as  name, address and email address will never shared, published or passed on to advertisers.

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2. Can I use my email address as my password?

Your username needs to be a specific name that is used to identify you on the Happy Ever After Dating site.  We do not allow members to use other personally identifiable information on our site that will be visible to other members.

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3. I am having trouble logging in what do I do?

When logging in to your membership area always check to make sure you are using the correct username/email address and password.  If you are not sure, please click on the FORGOT PASSWORD or FORGOT USERNAME link, enter the email address you used to register and answer the security question you selected when you first registered your account with us.  You will be emailed your login details

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4. Why do I have to log out when leaving the Happy Ever After Dating website?

It is your responsibility to ensure you have properly logged off  the Happy Ever After Dating site when you are finished with your session; especially if you are using a public computer (e.g. library, internet cafe, workplace).  We emphasize this to ensure your personal, confidential information is kept safe.   For your own safety please click the logout button when you are finished using the site.

If you have ticked the “remember me” button and your internet cookies have been turned on, the next time you login to our site from the same computer, you will automatically be logged in.

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Email Problems

1. How do I send emails?

You must login to you account before you are able to send emails.  Once you have logged in you will be directed to your Member Home Page.  Your mailbox is visible in the center of the Member Home Page.  To send a new email click on the Inbox on this page and you will be directed to your mailbox.

At the top of the mailbox you will see a blue button “compose mail”.  Once you click this button an email template will open for you to create a new email.

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2. How do I reply to a member's email?

You must login to you account before you are able to send emails.  Once you have logged in you will be directed to your Member Home Page.  Your mailbox is visible in the center of the Member Home Page.  To reply to someone's email click on the Inbox on this page and you will be directed to your mailbox.  From inside your mailbox you will be able to manage your emails.  As another option, there will be a large Mailbox tab at the top of every page that you can select to open your mailbox.

Open the other member's email to you and press the reply button.

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3. Do I have to be signed in to my account to be able to send an email?

Yes in order to use any of the communication features within Happy Ever After Dating (e.g. email, kisses, smiles, or instant messaging) you must be logged in to your account.

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4. I would like to send an email to another member, how do I do it?

Once you have seen another member you would like to contact, there is a link right on the front of their profile that reads “email me”.  Once you click this button an email template will open for you to send them an email.  The other option is inside your mailbox on your member home page.  Once you are inside your inbox you will see a button in the upper right hand corner that reads “compose mail”.

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5. A member has sent me an email, where do I go to read the email?

From your Member Home page you will see your Mailbox.  In this area you will clearly see Inbox and Sent Mail icons. Click on your inbox and see all your messages.

 

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6. How long will my email messages stay in my Happy Ever after email account?

You can only hold on to any sent or received emails for a period of 30 days.

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7. How can I save my emails?

We do not allow you to save emails indefinitely however, there is a print button at the top of email which will allow you to print them out.

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8. Why does my Happy Ever After inbox show emails that haven't been sent to my web based email account?

You may have spam filters on your web based email account either blocking the email from coming through or placing it in a spam/junk folder in your web mail account.  Check your spam folders to see if your Happy Ever After email notificdtions are being placed in your "spam/junk" folder in your mail account. 

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9. Some of my emails have a red/orange flag sitting next to them, what does this mean?

We only hold all emails for a period of 30 days.  This flag notifies you that this email will be deleted permanently from you mailbox within a certain period of time.

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10. Do I have to respond to my emails?

No one will force you to respond to another member however, it is respectful and polite to let them know you received their email even if you’re not interested in them.  We have a standard email that you can send out to let other member’s down “easy” if you are not interested in them.  This option is always available to you.

If you haven't responded to another member's email within 7 days our system will generate a friendly reminder letting you know that you have yet to respond to this members email.  We understand everyone has busy lives and unforeseen things happen from time to time however, we strongly feel everyone needs to be acknowledged so a return email is only polite.

If you have received an inappropriate email from another member (see email conduct) and do not wish to respond we would appreciate you reporting this email to us immediately by using the “report a concern” button.  This button is available on a members profile or inside the email you have recived from the other member.
 

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11. I do not want to respond to a member who has emailed me, what do I do?

If you have received an email from another member and you don't wish to continue to communicate with them, you must let them know you are not interested by either using our generic “no thanks”email response or by sending a personal email yourself.  Once you have responded you are permitted to block the user from contacting you (see blocking instructions).

If you haven't responded to another member's email within 7 days our system will generate a friendly reminder letting you know that you have yet to respond to this member/s.  We understand everyone has busy lives and unforeseen things happen from time to time however, you will be given the option on your profile to indicate if you are unavailable for a number of reasons. 

In your profile there will be a drop down menu where you can choose a number of reasons why you  are temporary unavailable or you can choose to hide your profile if you are going to be offline indefinitely.  When you are unavailable a watermark will be placed across your profile indicating you are temporarily unavailable.

If you have received an inappropriate email (see email conduct) from another member and do not wish to respond we would appreciate you reporting this email to us immediately by using the “report a concern” button.

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12. What is the "no thanks" button on the kiss/smile page?

If a member sends you a kiss/smile and you are not interested in them you can quickly send them a polite no thanks message which will be automatically sent on your behalf.

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13. What is the "not interested" button in my mailbox?

If another member emails you and you are not interested, you can send a generic polite “not interested”  email by clicking the “not interested” button next to that members email to you.

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14. Is there a limit to the size of my mailbox?

Your mailbox has no size limit.

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Communicating Between You and Other Members

1. How do I communicate with other members?

Once you are a registered member, there are several ways to communicate with other members.  You can connect with other members by sending smiles, kisses, emails or live one-on-one chat, with or without using our webcam feature.

As our site grows we are offering all of our Royal member services for free to all new members.  You will not have to pay for anything on our site initially, until we can offer you a thriving dating community.

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2. How do I send a kiss/smile?

On all member's profiles you will see a set of buttons allowing you to communicate with them.  If you would like to send a kiss/smile simply click either the “send a kiss” or “send a smile” button which will allow you to choose from a list of messages to send with your kiss/smile as a way to personalise your introduction.

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3. Does it cost anything to send a kiss/smile?

No, Happy Ever After Dating offers this feature for FREE.

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4. Where can I find my kisses/smiles or emails?

All of your winks/smiles and emails will be in your Happy Ever After mailbox.  The mailbox can be accessed from a large Mailbox tab at the top of the page from any page you are visiting.   You can also access your mailbox from your member home page.

You will also see a kiss/smile alert notification pop up on your screen in the bottom right hand corner from your Notification Tab.  If a member sent you a kiss/smile while you were offline you will find it in your notification list in the bottom right hand corner of the page.  A number will flash in the corner if you have notifications pending.

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5. How many kisses/smiles can I send?

You can send kisses/smiles at any time with no limit, however to protect all members from possible harassment (e.g. stalkers), you should limit how many kisses/smiles you send to one person.

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6. How long are my kisses and smiles saved in my inbox/outbox?

All smiles and kisses will be saved indefinitely, however if you feel your mailbox is too cluttered you may want to delete old kisses/smiles from your list.

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7. What are the maximum amount of kisses/smiles allowed in my inbox?

We will allow you an unlimited amount of kisses/smiles in your mailbox. 

If you feel your kisses/smiles page is too cluttered, then you can delete any old communications you wish by selecting the individual kiss/smile by using the tick box to the left of the individual item and choosing the delete button at the bottom of the page.

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8. What is the protocol/etiquette for sending smiles/kisses to other members?

You can send a smile/ kiss as a way of showing initial interest in another member’s profile.  Sending a smile/ kiss helps break the ice with someone to see if they show any interest in you.

If you receive a kiss/smile it is always nice to treat people the way you would like to be treated.  If another member takes the time to show interest in you, it is easy to give the other member the courtesy they deserve in responding even if you are not interested.  Responding one way or the other at least acknowledges the other member and also lets them know you received the smile/ kiss. 
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9. What is this notification informing me that a member has kissed/smiled at me?

A member who is interested in your profile has the option to either send you a kiss or a smile depending on their personal preference.   Whenever another member kisses or smiles at you a notification will arrive in your mailbox letting you know they are interested.  You will also see a notification pop up on your screen when you login.

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10. How do I respond to a kiss/smile or email alert?

There are a few different ways to respond to a kiss/smile or email.  You will receive an email whenever someone sends you a kiss/smile or email into your external webmail account and inside your Happy Ever After Dating mailbox.  

If you are in your external webmail there will be a link inside the kiss/smile alert message to    allow you to login to your account.  You must login first before you can reply back to another member.  Once you are inside the Happy Ever After Dating mailbox you will be able to respond directly by choosing a kiss/smile/email  button inside the message. 

You can also click on a member's username or photo to open their profile, once you do this you will see several buttons you can click on allowing you to kiss/smile or email back.
 

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11. How will I know my kiss/smile has been sent?

Once you click on the kiss/smile button you will see a pop up message letting you know the kisses/smiles has been  sent.
 

 

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My Favourites

1. What is my favourites?

My favourites  is a feature that will allow you to add your favourite member profiles to your favourites list.  This is an easy way to find and access the members you like most rather than having to search the whole database every time you want to locate their profile. 

By choosing the “add to favourites”  button or link on a members profile,  that member will automatically be added to your favourites list.
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2. Do I have to sign in to see my favourites?

Yes, you must be a member of the site with a registered profile to be able to save people to your favourites list.

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3. Where do I find my favourite member list?

Once you login, the first page you arrive at is your member home page.  Your favourites list is under the heading “MEMBERS YOU HAVE…..added to favourites” on the right side of your member home page.
 

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4. How do I save a member to my favourites?

When you do a search and find a member that catches your eye, on their profile there will be an “add to favourites” link or button you can select to add this person to your favourites list.  A window will appear confirming that you have added that member to your favourites.
 
 

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5. How do I delete a member from my favourites list?

When you open your favourites list you will see a tick box allowing you to delete this member from your list. You can also click on the “Remove from favourites”  button on the members profile.
 

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6. How many members can I save to my favourite list?

You are permitted to save a maximum of 70 favourites on your list at any one time.  There is no time limit on how long you can have members in your list.   However, please remember if you leave it too long to contact one of your “favourites” that member may be long gone.

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7. What is Your His/Her Favourite List?

This list will show you the members that have added you to their favourites list.
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Blocking Members

1. What is Member Blocking?

When you want to stop another member from contacting you, this feature gives you the ability to block them from contacting you.  Please bear in mind that once you have blocked someone you are also unable to contact them until you remove the block.  We have done this as a precaution for all our members.  It is not fair for you to be able to contact someone who is not allowed to contact you in return.

Once blocked a member will no longer be able to communicate with you in any way e.g. smiles, kisses or email.  The member will not know that you have blocked them however, they will no longer be able to communicate with you directly.

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2. How do I block someone from contacting me?

On a member's profile page there will be a Block button with hand icon.  Click this button and this member will be added to your Block list and blocked from communicating with you.  You can also find the “block member” button on any incoming email.

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3. How do I unblock a member?

To unblock a member go to your member home page and click on the link showing “members you have blocked”.  Once you click this link a list of blocked members will appear and from this page you will be able to unblock a member.

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Instant Message - Private Chat

1. What is Private Chat?

Chat is the ability to talk through private text messages live with another member privately over the internet.  Your text message arrives instantly.  The private chat box will open.  You must be logged in to be able to send/receive instant chat messages.

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2. How does Private Chat work?

The other member must be showing as “available” in order for you to contact them via private chat.

You can then type your personal message into the window and click send for the other member to see it on their screen instantly.  Be careful what you write as once you hit send the other member sees it immediately and you cannot take it back.

Some members may not choose to use the private chat feature, in this instance they will have the IM feature in “off” mode on their profile  (e.g. IM off).  Please respect this and do not take it personally.   They will still be accessible by emailing, kissing or smiling.  

Chat Settings

Available
– You are online and everyone on your friends list can see you and send you an instant message or chat with you through webcam.

Busy – You are online but you indicate to other members with this symbol that you are too busy to chat at the moment.

Invisible – You are online but in “invisible” mode.  You can see the online status of other members,  but they cannot see you.  If you choose to have a private conversation in this mode you can still instant message another member however other members will not see you online and available.

Offline – You can show in offline mode to other members in two instances 1) you are actually offline and not on the Happy Ever After Dating site or 2) You are online on the Happy Ever After dating site but you are not available in the chat program.
 

Please ensure the content of your communications is not offensive.  We regulate our site to ensure against inappropriate language, sexual references/innuendo, obsence language and other areas as well to protect the safety and security of all our member.  We reserve the right to cancel your membership if you are in violation of any of these terms (see terms and conditions).

To help our members understand how to use private chat we have set up this tutorial for you to enjoy this great feature.

Live Chat box will be located at the bottom right side of your screen.

Once you open the live chat box you will need to add friends (by asking their permission to add them to your friend list).  You cannot chat with anyone who is not on your friends list.

 
Adding friends –
There are two ways to add friends:
1. Type a username you know into the “add friend” field and your friend should come up in your chat list window.  Once you see your friends name, place your mouse over the name and you will see a (+add) symbol.  When you click on this symbol a request will be sent to that member to ask permission to add them to your friends list.

 2. Add friends link - By clicking this link at the bottom of your friends list window, another window will appear allowing you to send individual or multiple chat friend requests to other members either individually or by choosing members you have previously contacted or who are already in your favourites list.

Once you have chosen who you would like to add to your chat list click the “send friend request” button to send a request to the other member.  Once the other member has given you permission to add them to your friends list, you will be able to see them online and instant message them or call them using the webcam.

To start an instant message session click on your friends name and a private instant message box will appear.  Type your message in the box at the bottom of the window and hit the “enter” key.  Once you hit “enter” the message will appear in the top of the window and your friend will be able to read the text.

To get a description of the icons visible in this window see the next FAQ question – “What are the symbols in my chat box”.

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3. What are the symbols in my Chat box?

These little symbols can be used in a conversation to convey facial expressions and emotions.

Once you start an instant message conversation by clicking on your friends name, a chat box will open with a number of icons showing under your friends picture.   Here is a guide to the icons and their meanings.

Smiley Face symbol  
These little symbols can be used in a conversation to convey facial expressions and emotions. Click the smiley face icon and a box full of face emoticons will open allowing you to choose an expression to add to your instant message.

Pencil symbol  - Handwrite a message 
To handwrite a message or send a drawing click on the pencil symbol. This will change the font from a typed font to a handwritten style.

Once you are happy with what you have written/drawn, click on the send button in the bottom right hand corner. You will see a message in your private chat box saying “You have successfully sent a handwritten message”. Your message will be visible in both your private chat box and the other members private chat box.

Clock Symbol - Show/Hide Time  
This feature is to show members the exact time of the conversations with other members. To enable this feature, click on the clock symbol which will turn the feature on or off.

Paint Brush symbol - Clear conversation  
This feature is for members to be able to clear their private chat page, to enable this feature click on the paint brush symbol this will instantly wipe all your previous conversations.

Document symbol - Chat history  
This feature is for members to be able to keep track of the conversations they have had with other members. To use this feature click on the keyboard symbol which will then open up a window with all your recent chat history with other members.

Arrow symbol - Send a file 
Click on the arrow file icon, a notification box will open with a message saying “please select a file by using the button below”.

To send a file you need to click on the button that says '' send file”. You will then see a window which will allow you to choose a file from your computer and upload it.

Once you have selected the file you would like to send and have clicked the send button, a message will come up in your private chat box saying “you have successfully sent a file”. The other member will be asked to accept the file and once it is downloaded they will be able to view what you sent.

Webcam symbol /Start an audio/video call  
When you are chatting with someone you would like to see on videocam simply click the webcam icon and a request will go to the other member you are chatting with to accept a webcam chat from you. You will see this message (successfully sent an audio/video chat request). This will allow the other member to accept/deny the request to webcam chat with you.

 

Tips & Guidelines for Webcam Usage
Ensure your webcam is in a position to clearly show your face within a well lit room.

We do not permit any nudity, pornography, violence, criminal activity. We reserve the right to remove you from our site without notice for any of these infringements. In addition, criminal charges can be initiated in some cases.
Audio/Microphone Help
You will need a microphone and speakers to be able to speak to and hear another member. If you own a laptop these tools may be already built in. Most computers come with speakers however you may want to purchase a headset with microphone to enhance your chatting sessions.



T symbol - Write in your language  
This feature enables members to be able to write in their own language one on one to other members. To enable this feature you click on the letter T symbol.   A box will come up with a message asking “ Which language would you like to transliterate to?” In the box you will see there are a variety of languages from you to choose from. If for some reason your language is not on the list, we apologise and will be updating our language list in the future to accommodate all our members.

Once you have seen your chosen language, click on the language title and a box will open up with the message “ Type in English and use space to transliterate to your language”.

You can start typing in the blank private chat box what you would like to say to the other members remembering to use the space bar in between your word for the program to be able to translate. Once you have typed what you want to say in the private chat box, it will come up with the translation of your language, you can then click on the send button to send your message to the other member.

Playing card symbol - Play a Game  
Click on the playing card symbol to play a game by yourself or with another member. A message will come up asking you which game would you like to play? Click on the game you want to play after which you will be shown this message “ you have successfully sent a game request”. The other member than accepts or denies the request.

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4. How can I turn off/on the private chat feature?

There is a button on your profile page that will enable you to “turn on IM” or “turn off IM” when you are online but, if you don't feel like talking, or you don't have the time to engage in private communication, you can turn the private chat feature off.
The option to turn instant message on/off is also available on your member home page.

When you are offline the button will read “IM Off”.  When you are online the button will read “IM ON”.  This will enable you to access your profile without having to communicate with other members via live chat.  PLEASE NOTE: Until you turn the feature back on, no one will be able to communicate with you through private chat.
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5. How do I send a private invitation to another member?

You can only private chat other members who are currently online and on your friends list.  If the other member is not online you will not be able to access this feature.  If they are online you will see a coloured heart icon next to their name in your friends list in the chat feature to show whether or not they are online or offline.  In addition, there is an “online now” message on a members profile page if they are currently online.

Once you click the live chat button in the bottom right hand side of your screen, the window will expand and you will see your friends list.  From here you can send an instant message or start a webcam conversation with anyone on your friends list by clicking on their name.  Please remember - only members who give you permission to communicate with them will allow you to send them instant messages.  

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6. Do I have to respond to an private chat invitation?

When an private appears on your screen you will be given a choice to accept or deny the conversation.

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Profile Help & Tips

1. How do I create a profile?

Once you have registered a username/password you will be sent an activation email which will  activate your account and lead you through the process of creating your personal profile.  If you do not complete your profile you will not be able to access any of the member features.  During this process you will be asked a series of  questions with multiple choice and free text answers.  By answering these questions this process will create a personal profile for you.  If you do not answer all the questions your profile will be incomplete and the next time you login you will be prompted to complete your profile.

We ask you these questions in order to find a better match for you.  It is in your best interest to be honest with your answers so a prospective partner can get to know you better.   Some of the questions we ask may seem intrusive however, the more you reveal of yourself the greater chance you have of finding love.

Once you finish the profile questions click on the “send for approval” button.

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2. How do I update my profile?

You can edit your profile as many times as you like however, you must be logged in to your account and on your member home page there is a link above your photo to view/edit your profile.  Once you make changes you will then need to hit the “send for approval” button so our customer care team can review your changes. 

You can also access your profile by clicking on the “My Profile” tab at the top of every page.

Please bear in mind your customer care team will need time to review your submission so your profile may be offline for 24 hours while we review the changes.

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3. Does my profile appear immediately once I have completed the registration process?

Your profile must be manually approved prior to appearing on the site.  We have chosen not to automate the profile approval process in order to protect our members from scam artists and spammers.    We want the Happy Ever After Dating experience to be memorable in a positive way.

Once you submit your profile our customer care team will respond within 24-48 hours by email.

Please ensure to check your Junk mail settings so that you may receive emails from Happy Ever After Dating and that we are on your safe senders email list.

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4. Why isn't my profile visible?

There are three reasons why your profile is invisible.

1. You have chosen the “invisible” option on your member home page to hide your profile.

2. You have been temporarily or permanently banned from the site. 

3. Your profile has yet to be approved by the Happy Ever After Dating team (normal waiting time 24-48 hours).

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5. What etiquette/manner should I follow when setting up my profile?

When creating your profile please ensure you are not writing anything offensive that would upset other members.  We will not tolerate any inappropriate language, sexual references/innuendo, obsence language and other areas as well to protect the safety and security of all our member.  We want our site to be a good experience for all our members. 

You are not permitted to include any personal information e.g. email address, phone numbers, home address, and full names.  This is done as a safety precaution for all our members.

We reserve the right to cancel your membership if you are in violation of any of these terms (see terms and conditions).

Profile Tips
Be Honest

Try and be as honest as possible, honesty is always the best policy.  You do not want to base the beginning of a relationship with a new person based on dishonesty. 

We realise you are trying to portray yourself in the best light and put your best foot forward, however exaggerating and bragging do not make a good first impression. 

Although you need to include as much information about yourself as you can,  they don't need to hear your whole life story.  What you should be aiming to do is capture your personality and be yourself.

We have made it easier for you to describe yourself throughout the registration process by having our own specialised questions based on personal characteristics and preferences.  If you don't feel confident enough to use the free text boxes, we have included specific questions and drop down answers to help you along as we realise that writing about yourself is very difficult for many people.

Let your personality shine through

What are some of your best qualities?  If you find it difficult to know what your best qualities are, ask a good friend or family member.  Please remember that positive people are much more attractive.  We all know life can be tough sometimes however, when you first meet someone they do not want to hear all your problems. 

Describe your interests – things your passionate about!

Even if you're madly passionate about ant farms, don't think someone else won't find that fascinating.  For example, music, cars, sports, food and wine.

Just be yourself and let your personality shine through.

The more detailed description you give of yourself , makes it easier for the right person to notice you.  However, try not to ramble on and on.  You want to keep the persons attention and interest while they are reading your profile.

It's a good idea to avoid discussing any previous relationships.  No one wants to spend time getting to know someone only to hear about their ex boyfriends/girlfriends.  When you start a new relationship leave the baggage behind.

Profile Guidelines

Here at Happy Ever After Dating every members profile is reviewed and approved by our customer care team.  We routinely update our guidelines so please refer to the Help link to see our changes.

We will reject member profiles if they contain any of the following:

           - Abusive or obscene language, illegal, racially offensive or blasphemous content

            - Use of any unauthorised copywrited or trademarked material

            - Use of languages other than English will be rejected as we need to be able to monitor profiles and our staff are English speaking.

            - Any material that exploits or solicits personal information from individuals under the age of 18.

            - Solicitation for sex or descriptions of sexual activity.

            - Individuals under the age of 18

            - Individuals that are incarcerated.

            - Any personal contact information that identifies an individuals home address, phone number, email address or full name.

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Photo Help & Tips

1. Why do I have to upload a profile photo?

Unlike other dating sites, we insist all members supply us with one main profile picture of themselves. 

The reason we insist every member have a visible photo is it will give you a much greater success rate in meeting someone.  Statistics have proven  men are 14 times more likely to look at a profile with a photo and women are 8.5 times more likely to look at a profile with photo.  We also do not want to give anyone who is unavailable the opportunity to hide.  It's not about beauty, but you know the old expression “the eyes are the windows to the soul”.

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2. How do I add/edit a photo on my profile page or photo album once my profile is completed?

There are three places you can add/edit photos.  Once you login you are taken directly to your member home page.  Under your profile picture you will see two buttons that read “edit profile photo” and “edit photo album”.  In addition, you will see “edit/change primary photo” and “add/edit photo album” buttons when you are in “edit” view on your profile page.    

Once you choose one of these edit buttons you will be taken to the Edit Photo pages where you can follow the steps to replace your primary profile photo or add/edit/delete photo album pictures. 

A photo can be uploaded to your profile page from a camera memory card or a physical photo scanned into your computer.
As you upload your photos feel free to add a caption telling us where or when the photo was taken or a funny caption to add a bit of personality/interest to your photos.
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3. I am following the photo upload instructions but I am still having trouble putting a photo on my profile, what can I do?

If for some reason you cannot upload your picture directly on your member login page then we have two options available.

1. Email the .jpg file to photo@happyeverafter.com

Please include a message telling us whether the photo is to be your main profile picture or if it is to be added to your photo album.  Ensure you include your first and last name,  username,  birthdate and the email address used in your registration.

2. Mail the original photo directly to us at Happy Ever After Dating.

If you do not have access to a scanner we will scan the photo for you at no extra cost.
Remember to let us know if this is a primary or photo album photo.

Photos will not be returned unless they have a self-addressed stamped envelope included.

Mail the photo to:
Happy Ever After Dating
P.O. Box 55
Unanderra NSW 2526
Australia  
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4. How do I mail my photo directly to Happy Ever After Dating?

If you do not have access to a scanner we will scan the photo for you at no extra cost.
Remember to let us know if this is a primary or photo album photo.

Photos will not be returned unless they have a self- addressed stamped envelope included.

Mail the photo to:
Happy Ever After Dating
P.O. Box ????
Unanderra NSW 2526
Australia  

If for some reason you are still having problems then Email us directly at photo@happyeverafter.com
All photos are approved within 1-2 working days.  You will receive an email when your photo has been approved
If you do not have access to a scanner we will scan the photo for you at no extra cost.

Remember to let us know if this is a primary or photo album photo.

Photos will not be returned unless they have a self addressed stamped envelope included.

Mail the photo to:

Happy Ever After Dating

P.O. Box 55

Unanderra NSW 2526

Australia

If for some reason you are still having problems then Email us directly at photo@happyeverafter.com

All photos are approved within 1-2 working days.  You will receive an email when your photo has been approved.

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5. How will other members see my photos?

Your main profile picture will show automatically on the front page of your profile.  When other members search a small version of your main profile picture will appear next to your profile.

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6. Can I hide my profile or photo album photo's?

We do not allow members to hide their primary profile photo however, when you in the Add/Edit photo area you will see the option to “show or hide photo album pictures”.  If you choose “Hide Photo Album” then other members will have to request permission to see your photo album pictures.   If you choose “Show Photo Album” all your photos will be visible to other members.

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7. How many photo's can I add to my photo album?

We allow a maximum of 14 photos including your main profile picture.

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8. How long will it take for my photo to show on my page?

It can take up to 48 hours for photo's to be approved by our customer care team.

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9. How do I search for members with profile photo's?

Unlike other dating sites we insist every member have a visible profile photo to increase your chances of finding a match.  So any search you do you will always find a member with a profile photo showing.

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10. Photo Tips & Guidelines for Primary Photo and Photo Album

  • Blurry, grainy or bad quality will not be accepted.
  • Primary profile Photos must be of yourself only.  No group shots will be accepted.
  • Group pictures will only be accepted in the photo album not as your main profile picture.
  • Photo's of children are not permitted as your pimary profile photo however, they are allowed in your photo album.
  • Please ensure your photo is recent.
  • Primary profile photos must clearly show your face and must not contain hats or sunglasses.
  • Photo's containing full or partial nudity will not  be accepted.  No topless pictures or bathing suit photos.
  • Please ensure your pictures are not sexually explicit or offensive.
  • Photo size must not exceed 3MB.
  • Images must be received in .jpg format – If for some reason you do not know how to save a photo as a .jpg format we will convert the file for you.
  • Photos must be resized – if your photo is too large (over 3MB) it will automatically be rejected and you will see an error message letting you know the file size is too big.  However, if your photo is within the 3MB file size requirements you may still need to crop it to our maximum measurements.  This function will be available to you immediately after you upload your photo in the “edit photo” section.
  • Cartoons, illustrations or other graphic images will not be accepted.
  • Try to smile in your photo as it's more inviting and friendly.
  • Use a recent photo, if you don't have one get a friend to take one.
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Compatibility Quotient Test

1. What is the Compatibility Quotient Test?

The Compatibility Quotient (CQ) test is an indicator of long-term compatibility.  Couples are often fatally snared before they have had a proper chance to consider their suitability as companions.  With the introduction of internet dating there is an opportunity to screen potential partners for compatibility before Cupid's arrow strikes.

The Compatibility Quotient (CQ) Test gives couples the opportunity to test their compatibility before getting too involved in a relationship.  The CQ test is based on 30 factors that are important for long-term compatibility. 

The CQ Test will help speed up your journey to finding the perfect mate.

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2. What happens if I like another member and want to see how compatible we are but the other member hasn't taken the test?

Once you arrive at another member's profile you will see a scroll on the left side of the page symbolizing the Compatibility Quotient test.  If that member has not taken the test there will be a link to invite them to take the test.

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3. What is the CQ score next to some members profile?

This score indicates the level of compatibility of two members who have both taken the test.  By clicking on this score icon a full report will be available to you to see just how compatible you are with the other member.

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4. How do I take the Compatibility Quotient test?

Once you are a member the test is available on the front of your member home page.

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5. Is the Compatibility Quotient test free?

Yes, the Compatibility Quotient test will be free for the first 500 members.

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Up Close and Personal

1. What is Up Close and Personal?

Here at Happy Ever After Dating we realise finding the right person can be daunting and time consuming. It can take a long time to get to know someone and build up trust. With this in mind, we have created our own special system to help speed up the process. This feature is called “Up Close and Personal”. To learn more about this private side to your profile please read the following.

You will be given a set of questions to choose from. These questions and answers will be kept hidden from other members until you grant them permission to view them. This is done through a series of ice breaker emails to help you determine whether or not you want another member to view your personal information.  Once you receive their answers to your questions, you can grant them access to see the Up Close and Personal side of your profile, send more questions to them, or deny their request to see the Up Close and Personal side of your profile. 
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2. How do I create the Up Close and Personal side of my profile?

If you haven't already followed the prompts to set up the Up Close and Personal side of your profile during your profile creation then you will find links to this section on your member home page after you login. 

There are two links available in the member home page.  One link will allow you to choose the private profile questions/answers you want included in your Up Close and Personal profile.  The other link will allow you to choose the permission questions you will send to someone who wants to see your Up Close and Personal profile.

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3. What are permission questions?

Each member gets to select permission questions to send to any member that wishes to see the Up Close and Personal side of their profile.    If you would like to get to know another member better before showing them the Up Close and Personal side of your profile, then you get the option to send out 2 sets of 5 questions for other members to answer before granting or denying permission.
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4. How do I ask permission to see another members Up Close and Personal profile?

Once you are on the front of a members profile page you will see a heart shaped padlock symbol.  Click on the symbol to send a request for permission to see the Up Close and Personal side of that members profile.

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5. What happens when someone asks permission to see the Up Close and Personal side of my profile?

A  request will arrive in your mailbox under the Up Close and Personal tab.  From that request you will be able to take action to accept, deny or send permission questions.

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6. Where do I go to edit my Up Close and Personal questions (Up Close and Personal and permission questions)?

On the member home page you will see two buttons “edit up close and personal questions” and “edit permission questions”.  By choosing one of these buttons you will be given the opportunity to choose and edit both sets of questions.
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7. Can other members see my Up Close and Personal profile without my permission?

No, the Up close and Personal side of your profile will be invisible unless you give specific permission for another member to see it.

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8. What are Up Close and Personal Questions?

By choosing the option to select Up Close and Personal questions you are picking questions and answers that will be placed in a hidden section of your profile to reveal more about yourself.  This up close and personal section of your profile will only be seen by members who you have given permission to see it.


    
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My Matches

1. What are My Matches and how do I find them?

On your member home page you will see a section entitled “My Matches”.  Once you click on the My Matches button you will then be taken to a page showing you a list of member profile pages.  These members have been mutually matched with you based on your partner wishlist and the other members wishlist.  

These matches will also be sent to you via email.

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2. How can I change the frequency of how many match emails I receive?

Check your notification settings in “My account” or in your notification window at the bottom right hand side of your screen.  These two locations will have an area where you can change the frequency of your match notifications along with which email account/s you want your matches sent to.

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3. How can I improve the matches that are sent to me?

When filling in your partner wishlist you need to be specific about the qualities you want in a potential partner.  If you are too vague and select “not important to me” as your response, then your matches will be very broad and not based on specific criteria.  The more specific you are the better quality match you will receive.

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4. Why has it been weeks since I've received my matches by email?

Check your notification settings in “My account” or in your notification window at the bottom right hand side of your screen.  These two locations will have an area where you can change the frequency of your match notifications along with which email account/s you want your matches delivered to.

The amount of matches you receive will vary according to how specific or non specific you are.  For example, if you are very specific in your criteria you will have fewer matches but the quality will be higher.  If are less particular and would be happy with anyone who has a pulse then you will receive lots of matches to choose from however, they may not be suited to you.

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5. How do I stop receiving My Match email notifications?

Check your notification settings in “My account” or in your notification window at the bottom right hand side of your screen.  These two locations will have an area where you can select whether or not to have matches delivered to your external email or your dating email inbox.

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Searches

1. What is a basic search?

Basic search is based on basic criteria you would like to find in another member (e.g. age, location, gender, specialised category-single parent).

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2. What is an advanced search?

When the basic search information is not specific enough for your needs, you can add more individual characteristics to your search inside the advanced search area.  This will narrow your search and help you find your ideal partner.

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3. What is a username search?

If you know another members username you can type it in the username search box and hit the search button.  If you have typed in the name correctly you should be taken directly to that members profile.  However, if you have misspelled the username you will be shown a list of profiles that have similar usernames.  If a member's profile is not visible they have either hidden their profile temporarily or they are no longer a member of the Happy Ever After Dating site.

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4. How do I save a search?

Once you have selected your criteria in the Advanced Search page you will see a “save search” button on the bottom of the page.  This feature will save your latest search only.

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5. What is the "My partner wishlist" in the search window?

On the top of the page you will see a button “my partner wishlist”.  Once this is selected all the criteria you chose for your potential partner will be automatically entered below in the advanced search fields.

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6. What does "Category" mean in the basic search window?

We have specialised categories where members can register their profile when they join Happy Ever After Dating.  If you want to search for a member in a specific category include the category name in the search field   e.g. single parent, military, professional etc.
 

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7. Why am I not getting many search results?

If your search criteria is too specific you will limit the number of results that will be displayed.  In addition, we are a new site that is in the process of building our membership base.  As our membership builds so will the search results.

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8. How is search different from my partner wishlist?

When you are completing your partner wishlist you are selecting specific criteria in order to help you find your perfect match.  However, a basic or advanced search function will allow you to search for anyone based on your specific selections at the time.  You can change/alter these selections to bring up different search results.

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9. How is search different from My Matches?

When you search you will bring up results based on what you are looking for in a potential partner.  However, you may not match what that member is looking for in a partner.  My Matches are based on mutual matching which means you match what the other member is looking for and they match what you are looking for in a partner.

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Communication History

1. What is Communication History Search?

To see a complete history of all communication you have had with another individual member place their username in the field provided and a full list of previous communications will display.

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Notifications

1. What are notifications?

Notifications are small pop up message alerts that will arrive at the bottom of your screen when you have received a new kiss, smile, email or request from another member.

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2. What happens if I miss the pop up message?

If you are not at your computer when the message shows on your screen you can click on the Notification box at the bottom of your screen and a list of all incoming notifications will be visible.

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My account

1. How do I cancel my membership?

Go to the My Account tab at the top of every page and you will be taken to the Account Settings page.  From there you will see a link to cancel your membership.

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2. Where do I find when my membership runs out?

Go the the My Account tab at the top of every page and you will be taken to the Account Settings page.  From there click on the link entitled Membership Status.

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3. How do I update my billing information?

Go to the My Account tab at the top of every page and you will be taken to the Account Settings page.  From there you will see a link entitled Update your Billing Information.

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4. How do I change your personal details?

Go to the My Account tab at the top of every page and you will be taken to the Account Settings page.  From there you will see a link entitled Change your Personal Details.

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Privacy Concerns

1. How does Happy Ever After Dating protect my privacy?

All your personal details are kept confidential (real name, billing information, phone number, email address).  Emails and chat conversations are also completely private.  If you share any personal information with other members we cannot be held liable for any misconduct by other members and we have no way to protect you.  For more information please refer to our privacy policy.

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Online Dating Advice & Safety Tips

Online dating has become one of the simplest, fastest and convenient way to find your perfect match. There is no longer a stigma attached to online dating that there was in the past. Everyone knows someone who has used online dating or met someone special through online dating.
As a result of the popularity of online dating there is a greater need to protect yourself when dating online. With that in mind we have created some safety and general dating tips to make it a safer experience for our members.
To protect our members we have a number of standard practices in place to check the authenticity of members profiles. We have both manual and automatic systems checking for suspicious activity, inappropriate email content and possible spamming and scams.
The option for members to notify us directly of suspicious behaviour is also in place through our “report a concern” button.

1. Dating tips - General

Once your online relationship progresses to the point where you want to meet each other in person, please don't forget that your safety should be your first priority.  Although this is very exciting, don't let your emotions get carried away.  It takes a long time to truly get to know and trust someone with your personal safety, so be careful to avoid putting yourself in a vulnerable or dangerous position.

Trust your own instincts!  Often we don't listen to that little voice that lets us know something doesn't feel right. Don't dismiss this feeling; often our instincts are our best warning system.
 
Although Happy Ever After Dating endeavours to weed out dishonest and unsavoury members, ultimately we cannot guarantee the character of every member on our site.  Therefore it is your responsibility to use your sound judgement to protect yourself in your dealings with other members.
 
We encourage you to block any member who is behaving in an abusive manner towards you and to report the behaviour to Happy Ever After Dating using our “Report a Concern” button on the front of the profile page.
 
If Happy Ever After Dating closes an account due to suspect activity, inappropriate behaviour or falsified identity, you may be notified via email to discontinue communicating with the person in question.
 

Talk on the phone first
It's always a better idea to talk on the phone first a few times before agreeing to meet in person.  The best option is to use mobile phones so that your home phone number and work phone number are kept private.  This is a great safeguard in case the relationship becomes unsafe.  If you have given out your personal home/work details then cutting off communication, if necessary, becomes much more difficult.
 
Excessive Bragging & Inconsistent Information
If someone is always telling exaggerated tales and giving you information that doesn't add up, this should be a red flag that all may not be as it seems.
 
Be aware of someone who doesn't respect your boundaries.
If you are consistently feeling like your wishes are not respected or heard, that could be a sign of someone who doesn't respect your personal boundaries.  No means No.
 
Go at your own pace.  If you are feeling pushed or pressured by another member who wants to take the relationship at a pace you are not comfortable with, remember to go at your own pace and trust your instincts.
 
Alcohol Consumption – With the increase in drink spiking around the world, we advise you to be cautious and careful when drinking alcohol on your date.  Keep you glass in sight at all times even though you may feel that is paranoid behaviour.  In addition, losing control because of excessive drinking leaves you in a vulnerable position and gives a terrible impression.
 
Don't leave your valuables lying around when on a date (e.g. wallet, mobile phone,  drivers license, credit cards) these items will reveal your personal information about and you are risking theft.
 
Don't go home with someone too early in a relationship, even if you feel you've spent enough time with them to trust them.
 
The Language of Love
 
As much as possible, communicate with your partner your “love language”. Your love language is the way you give and receive love, and to different people they demonstrate giving/receiving love in many different forms.  As you learn each other’s “love language” you will grow closer as a couple.
 
Some of the love languages are:
 
Receiving Gifts (presents/flowers/chocolates)
 
Acts of service (doing housework, washing car, giving someone a massage)
 
Words of encouragement (praise, compliments)
 
Physical affection (hugs, kisses, holding hands)
 
Quality time (time spent with each other without distractions)
 
Always be kind and respectful.  Treat others the way you would like to be treated.  Even if you realise the person you are out with is not quite right for you, everyone has feelings and deserves to be respected.
 
Ending the communication – After consideration, if you feel the person is not right for you, it would be much better for you and the other person to be honest, upfront and direct in your dealings with each other.
 
Safety Tips for Meeting in Person
 
Tips for when you decide to meet in person
 
The do's
 
Always tell a friend or a family member where you are going.
 
Tell a family member or a reliable friend exactly where you will be meeting your date. If people don’t know where you are they can’t help you if things go wrong. Don’t feel embarrassed if you need to end the date if you are feeling uncomfortable. Make sure you call your friend or family member when you are home, so they know you are safe and sound.
 
Meet in a public place
 
Meet in places like a restaurant or coffee shop, where there is lots of people around in case you need to leave. There is a lot more safety in numbers. There is plenty of time for intimacy once you get to know the person better.
 
Use your own transport, drive yourself, never allow yourself to be picked up by your date in their car.  You do not know this person and it puts you in a dangerous, vulnerable position if they are not trustworthy; it also gives them more control. You can always leave when you want to if you have your own transportation.
 
Always remain alert and cautious
Just because someone gives a good first impression doesn't mean they are necessarily trustworthy.

 

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2. Dating Tips - Professionals

One of the biggest challenges a professional faces is finding the time to meet someone which is one of the reasons online dating is so popular with professional people.

Although finding the time can be a challenge making the time is what you need to do in order to find a partner in life.  Something as important as a life partner cannot be accomplished without taking the time necessary to find the right person for you.  There is no avoiding this fact.

Online dating is perfect for professional as it is available 24 hours a day 7 days a week and there's always people available online to connect with.

By dating online you get the opportunity to save time, weed out inappropriate people and clarify exactly what you want in a partner. 

Is it important to you that your potential partner is on the same level educationally, professionally and financially?  If so, then you will want to specifically search for someone that meets your criteria so you are not disappointed.  However, if following that path has not worked for you in the past then you may want to change your approach and be more open minded.  You don't necessarily need to meet someone in the same income bracket or profession to find a suitable partner.  Sometimes the differences you have can be what makes the relationship work.

We all know people who, on paper, would seem ideal or terrible matches but, in reality, are the exact opposite. Maybe you’ve even had that experience yourself. Perhaps the main lesson to be learnt here is to avoid arbitrary filtering of potential partners. Just as you can’t tell who will make a great customer or employee based on static information, it is dangerous to do that with other relationships.

Balancing Life While Looking For Love

It's never easy finding a balance between love, work and play.  We live in such a fast paced world it's hard to even find the time to think let alone find a life partner.  This problem is exacerbated even more for professional people who have very limited time outside of their careers to look for love.

Here are a few tips to help you make the time you need to find true love.

Tip 1: Plan your work week more effectively. Schedule regular times (e.g. 3 nights a week, coffee breaks, mornings before work etc.) to get online at Happyeverafterdating.com.au to find your ideal partner. Obviously once you find someone you're interested in eventually you will have to meet in person, make sure you schedule time for face to face dates.  Meeting someone for a coffee doesn't take much time out of your day and is a great way to take a break from work and help you love life at the same time.  As a professional, prioritise this time as you would any other client meeting or family commitment. (e.g. browsing other members profiles online, meeting people for coffee).

Just remember your personal life is also a priority.  Don't let your career consume all of your time.  A successful career is better shared with a partner.

Tip 2: Share the load. As a professional your time is limited.  You are most likely covering certain life tasks (e.g. picking up kids from school, house cleaning, groceries) in a more time effective way because your time is so limited around work commitments. 

If you are not already delegating some routine personal chores then consider asking for additional help from friends/family/neighbours or hiring outside help.


Tip 3: When you start seeing people, use some of that time for practical things.

Once you start seeing someone why not try and incorporate doing practical things together.  For instance you offer to help your date with a chore (painting, gardening, gift shopping) and your date can help you with a practical task.  You will find that once you get to know someone a little doing these everday chores together can be very relaxing and take the pressure of the “date” mentality.  Your date will be happy to help once you know each other better but remember to save “quality” time together to have a glass of wine, cup of coffee or a meal afterwards or do something to celebrate your hard work.

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3. Dating Tips - Baby Boomers

Most baby boomers find themselves single for the second time around.  This could be due to divorce or death of a partner.  For most “boomers” having been in a long term relationship for the majority of their lives, entering the single scene can be a very daunting experience.

Although the prospect of dating can be intimidating for most baby boomers the benefits of dating as a mature person brings with it a real knowledge of who you are and what you want in a partner.  In addition for some, this is a second chance at happiness.

The best attitude to take toward this experience is a new adventure and another chapter in your life.  Prepare yourself, life has changed and the rules are different.  Armed with a few helpful hints you can soon be enjoying dating the second time around.  Remember, love has no age limit

Attitudes to sex have changed dramatically. The best advice we can offer is to know your own personal boundaries and trust your instincts. 

Although “boomers” came from the age of sex, drugs and rock and roll, when you've been out of the loop for a long time you can still feel very intimidated by the prospect of entering an intimate relationship again.  Fortunately at this stage in your life you should be much more comfortable with your sexuality than you were as a younger person.  This should empower you to be more assertive in expressing your needs and wants to a potential partner.

If you do decide to enter into a sexual relationship the risk of STD's (sexually transmitted diseases) is still something to be considered.  Using sexual protection is always recommended especially when a relationship is relatively new.
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4. Dating Tips - Christians

1) Do not be unequally yoked.

Take II Cor. 6:14 seriously.

Don't team up with those who are unbelievers. If you are dating someone who doesn’t have a personal relationship with Christ, you are playing with fire.

If you fall in love, what will you do? Don’t let the relationship progress to a physical point and then

hope you can cut it off later.

2) Pray and read the bible daily to protect yourself with the shield of God.

You need all the help you can get in today’s world. Are you spending time with God? Do you depend on Him to meet your needs of love and security? You can resist temptation if you put on the whole armor of God.

 (Eph. 6:10-20).

3) Be obedience to God over giving in passion.

Not everything we do that’s right, feels good. In fact, usually the opposite is true. It feels incredibly good to give in to passion. But, the authority of Christ needs to take precedence over your physical drives.

Society tells you to give in to the moment. Christ tells you to be obedient to His word.

4) Physical expressions of love should be kept for committed relationships.

Physical touch/intimacy should correspond with commitment. This doesn’t mean anything goes if you are engaged.

Physical touch should be in the context of a meaningful relationship, not reduced to satisfaction of personal need.

5) Both of you should set personal boundaries and be respectful of each other.

Both partners should take responsibility for setting limits. Mutual boundary keeping reflects maturity.

If one person is uncomfortable with any type of physical expression, don’t do it. You should respect and honour each other. Don’t push a date to do anything that makes him/her feel uncomfortable.

6) Is there too much emphasis on the physical relationship?

If the social, emotional, spiritual dimensions are missing or lacking, you are out of balance. If you can’t stand the person but have a great physical relationship, rethink the relationship.

7) Be guided by love versus lust.

Love is the fruit of the Spirit. From love comes self-control. Operate in love, not lust.

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5. Dating Tips - Military

Military dating online offers you the chance to connect with thousands of military people.

Many people are attracted to military personnel. One reason is because the members of the Armed Forces are among the most selfless individuals to be found anywhere in the world.  Their lifestyle attracts those who are interested in the long held traditions of the different branches of the Military. Frequently, these are people who have committed themselves to guarding and protecting the freedom that people cherish and the values that most of us hold dear.

Of course, people are attracted to the military lifestyle for all sorts of reasons. They may have been raised in a military family and miss the closeness that forms among military families. Maybe they enjoy the travel and assignments to many parts of the world.

Here are a few specific tips for dating military men/women:

  • The life of military personnel is quite different from that of a civilian. Be prepared to adjust to that lifestyle. If you are ready for the huge change, you will soon fit into their world.

 

  • Be prepared for separation. Duty may demand that your partner be away for long periods of time. That is part and parcel of military life.

 

  • Try to control your inquisitive nature. There may be occasions when your partner might not be in a position to reveal everything to you. Have respect for his/her job demands.

 

  • Never compare your life with that of a civilian friend. Both worlds have their own set of rules and demands. Pay heed to his/her decisions.

 

  • When dating someone who is deployed overseas keeping in touch has become easier and easier with the introduction of technology.  There are lots of Voip programs (e.g. yahoo, messenger, skype) where you can not only speak to your loved one but see them live on webcam as well.  Don't forget the intimacy of a written letter, there's nothing more personal than a handwritten note and that will never go out of style.
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6. Dating Tips - Single Parents

We realise that entering the dating scene as a single parent is a unique situation that can present it's own set of challenges.  However, here at Happy Ever After Dating we want to show you that getting back into the dating scene doesn't have to be a daunting or challenging task with our help.

Don't feel guilty!

As an adult you are entitled to have your own adult companionship and conversation.  It does not mean you love your kids any less.  Having a night out with someone who can make you laugh and show you a good time will help you to be a more balanced and satisfied person which in turn will make you a better parent.

Let's face it, if you don't take care of yourself you get burnt out and are less effective taking care of your children.  Everyone needs some “me” time.

The kids always come first

We know your children will always be your first priority so be cautious when deciding when to introduce your dating partner to your children.  Take your time getting to know your dating partner first before introducing them into your childrens lives.

When the time comes and you are confident you can trust your dating partner around your children,  introduce them as a friend first rather than use the term “boyfriend” or “girlfriend” in your conversation with them.

Listen to your children

If your children are old enough to have an opinion about your dating partner, listen to what they have to say.  When you have a family bringing another person in to your life involves them as well.  Keep your lines of communication open with your children in relation to this issue.  Don't sacrifice your children's time for your dating.  In order to avoid any feelings of jealousy  your children may develop with your new dating partner be sure to keep your scheduled family time like sporting events, parties, weekend family days for you and your children.  Once your relationship with your dating partner gets serious you can then bring your partner into these family events.

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7. Dating Tips - Fitness and Sport

People who play together stay together!  Enjoying outside/physical activities together can really help you bond and stay healthy at the same time.    It's common knowledge that physical health reduces stress levels, produces  hormones in the body which put you in a positive mood.  All of this spills over into your personal life as well and results in a healthier relationship.

One of the benefits of dating someone who shares your passion for fitness/sport is that you will both have the same energy level and common interests.  You can go to the gym together, go running, biking, attend sporting events together, compete together.  Even if you have different sporting interests you can still show support for each other by attending each others events as your personal pep squad.

If you both have a competitive nature ensure your relationship is not a competition.  Competition can be fun and spice up your relationship however, try not to take it too far.

It's proven that people who have a good fitness level feel more comfortable in their own skin.  Let's face it, feeling hot and sexy helps people to have a good sex life too.

On the other hand, if you are possessed with your fitness/sport and your friends call you a “gym junkie”  or “sports fanatic” then you may struggle to incorporate someone else into your life.  If your fitness/sports goals are different the other person may feel left out of that part of your life.  If you are looking for love then don't let your interest in sports/fitness become your first priority.  Your partner does not want to feel like they come second to your sporting interest.

If you are a sports fanatic or gym junkie and would love your partner to get on board then make it fun for them too!  Pack a romantic picnic for the event.  Buy your date a fun hat, t-shirt, or team banner and make it fun.  Purchase the best seats in the house for a sporting event.  Nothing compares with the excitement of sitting courtside at a basketball game or behind the dugout at a baseball game.  Even if your partner is not interested in sports, great seats at a sporting event can change their minds.

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8. Dating Tips - Seniors

Sometimes seniors find themselves single for the second time around.  This could be due to divorce or death of a partner.  For most seniors having been in a long term relationship for the majority of their lives, entering the single scene can be a very daunting experience.

Remember dating can also be searching for a companion.  It doesn't always have to be serious true love.  At this stage in your life you may only be looking for companionship and friendship.  If you've walked down the aisle once you may not want to do it again.

Although the prospect can be intimidating for most seniors, the benefit of dating again as a mature person brings with it a real knowledge of who you are and what you want in a partner.  In addition, this is a second chance at happiness.
The best attitude to take toward this experience is to look at dating as a new adventure and another chapter in your life.  Prepare yourself, life has changed and the rules are different.  Armed with a few helpful hints you can soon be enjoying dating the second time around.  Remember, love has no age limit.

Here are some ideas for your first date:

Cooking Classes - Cooking can be fun. There are cooking classes for all levels available throughout the country. Checkout your local paper to see where courses are being offered.

Dancing Classes - Ballroom, Salsa, Swing, and Samba. There are lots of different types of dance classes available. Even if you haven't stepped on a dance floor in years, there are plenty of teachers who can help you get back in the swing of things. Dancing is a great way to connect and see if there is a spark between the two of you.

Go on a Picnic – a great way to get to know each other is in a romantic picnic setting.  Pick a place that is visually appealing (e.g. lake/beach/park).  It can be fun to shop for your picnic supplies however, if you each decide to bring food make sure you decide on what each of you will bring to eat.

Art Gallery/Musuem – If you are both interested in art and musuems this can be a great way of sharing a common interest and getting to know one another.

Set Sail on the High Seas.  A love of the ocean/outdoors makes a great backdrop for a romantic/adventurous date.  Depending on your fitness level and budget you have a few options.  You can rent a canoe/rowboat or to make the date really special purchase tickets for a lunch/dinner cruise.

Bookworms - what a better way to start communicating with each other than discussing your favourite books.   Attending a local book reading/club is a great way to find common ground and keep the conversation flowing.

Activity Partner -  Perhaps one of you has a passion for tennis or bowling.  What a great way to get to know one another while getting fit at the same time.  If you do choose a competitive sport/recreation you'll discover how the other person deals with winning and losing.

Music for your Soul - Whether you're moved by opera, country, rock, or classical, attending an indoor or outdoor concert is sure to set the tone for a great evening!  Just make sure you don't invite an opera lover to a heavy metal rock concert.

Gardening - If gardening is a shared passion, a trip to a plant nursery or arboretum could be a fun first date idea.
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9. Dating Tips - Interracial

Follow your Heart

Interracial relationships can be fun and exciting.  Your cultural differences can make for a fun and interesting journey together.  Often what attracts us to another person are the things that make us different.  You know the old expression “opposites attract”.

No matter what your background/race we all have the need for love and companionship so even if your cultural backgrounds are different and you are going against “the norm”, follow your heart.

Communication is the Key

When you bring different cultures, races and religious backgrounds together, it is important to focus on your communication skills as a couple.  Choose your words carefully as the meaning behind the words can be very different between cultures.  Different words simply mean different things to each person.  Those differences are magnified when you are an interracial, multicultural couple.

In addition to double checking the understood meaning of words together, you will need to communicate and check in on what the meaning of certain behaviors is to each of you.  Outward displays of affection may be normal for you and your family however, you partner may come from a background where displays of affection are much more subtle or they may not display affection at all.  A smile or a loving look may be how your partner expresses deep love however, you may be disappointed if you have a strong need for outward physical signs of affection and he/she cannot return that type of affection.

Interracial/multicultural relationships require even greater couple communication which will enable you to form a closer, more intimate relationship.  You two will have more of those special little unique couple jokes over your cultural differences.  Your relationship will have a deeper connection and deeper roots to draw upon while you face the ups and downs of life.

Understand Your Partner's Culture

People in an interracial relationship are not only different racially, but they may be different socially. They may have grown up in vastly different cultures and societies, even living in the same state. You should understand your partner's culture well before getting too serious in an interracial relationship. Ask her questions about her customs and beliefs. They may be vastly different from yours. Discuss any potential problems you may have with these differences. By communicating your differences and working through them, you can focus on strengthening your similarities and your relationship in general.

Dealing with Disapproving Family and Friends

A common problem in interracial dating is dealing with friends and family who do not approve of your relationship. There are many reasons people don't approve of interracial dating. Sometimes people are racist; sometimes they think it would be hard for the potential future children of a couple to grow up in a mixed-race household. The best way to deal with unsympathetic family and friends is to remain calm and try not to get angry or upset as it will only make the situation worse.  Try to incorporate your partner into your network of friends and family.  Though things may be uncomfortable at first, integrating your partner into your family and friends' social lives will help them understand your relationship is geniune and it will give them an opportunity to get to know your partner better.

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10. ONLINE SAFETY TIP - How to tell if you are being scammed

There are some common tell-tale signs that should alert you to a possible scam situation.

- Requests for money directly

- Communications that encourage you to take pity and send money (e.g. sick family members, financial hardship stories, children needing medical operations, money for travel/visas).

- Emails encouraging you to follow links to other sites outside the Happy Ever After Dating site could possibly be fraudulent activity.

- Emails announcing you have won a lottery/prize.

- Emails from Nigeria asking for money

- Emails from Russian girls looking to immigrate to your country and find a husband.

- Emails claiming intense feelings of love/emotion when you have had hardly any communication with that member previously. We are not saying you are not worthy of being loved, however ask yourself, is that kind of behaviour appropriate when you hardly know someone?
For general information on online scams go to the following websites.

In Australia

Scamwatch www.scamwatch.gov.au

In the United States

www.usa.gov.com (http://www.usa.gov/Citizen/Topics/Science/Communications.shtml)

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